The Importance Of Modelling The Behaviour That We Want To See

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Written By Silvia Cataudo-Williams

The strongest influence in our life is the behaviour of those around us.

The neocortex, which is the part of our brain that makes us most uniquely human, comes least 'pre-programmed' when we are born. It is ready to be rapidly filled with information specific to our society and culture, allowing us to navigate our social world.

It is a natural learning process whereby somebody observes the behaviour of another and then imitates it.


As parents and care givers we are our child's most important role model.

So, if you want your child to show respect, you need to show respect, if you'd like your child to talk calmly, you need to model this. Children follow what you model!

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